It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company.
Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are.
If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl.
But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.
A mirror reflects a mans face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad.
The less time you associate yourself with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it only increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.
With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.
Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. The mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.
The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate – for the good and the bad
Note: Be not mistaken. This is applicable to family as well as friends. Yes…do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will always be your family no matter what. Just know that they are human first and though they are family to you, they may be a friend to someone else and will fit somewhere in the criteria above.
” In prosperity, our friends know us. During adversity, we know our friends.”
“Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them.”
“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters.
Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.”
Above is a speech that has been attributed to Colin Powell about The Company that you Keep. I got it here http://www.theinnerseed.com/the-company-you-keep. There are multiple sites that list him as the author… but you know the way the internet is. As my friend Sunny said, it might just be some quotes cobbled together and attributed to him.
When I think of Colin Powell, I don’t look at his picture and think Yeah, now that’s a friend I want! Is he a friend that is always there for you? Maybe. Maybe he gives good hugs and is super loving, caring, and candid with those that he holds most dear. I do like some of his points, but I can’t be quite so militant to give up on people. Not unless they’ve hurt me badly.
Usually if people are being negative, it is because they have gone through or are going through a rough time. Sometimes it is me going through a rough time and not feeling like I am receiving the love that I want in the way that I want it to be given. Nevertheless, things must take their course and we can try our best no to internalize the negativity that they’re putting out.
I have seen some of my friendships deepen over time, when I have had the patience not to give up on them. My hope is that if I can shine and be certain in the love that I have for myself as well as the love that I give. If I can maintain my healthy boundaries, then their negativity will not stick to me. Still, I know there is always a limit, and negativity isn’t bouncy. We each have our tolerances.
Friendships are hard to maintain when you travel as much as me. Few understand my lifestyle; my restlessness. Even when they do understand it on some level, time spent in company is the thing that creates memories. It takes patience to know know when I will be around next. I’m like a bird.
I thank my lucky stars for the close friendships that I have where I feel a belonging in people’s hearts even if I am not in the same city as them. When someone calls me and I can be a comfort and vice versa, we can be human for one another. We can Skype and continue our friendship by email, phone and text. The wonders of technology!
We are who we are because of the family and friends around us.If you are my friend, I thank you for loving me both near and far.
When you think about who is around you and read this, how do you feel?